If you cannot love another person without stipulations, then it is not love at all, only deep-seated opportunism such as someone making the most of an advantageous situation, often unmindful of others.
When is it unconditional?
If you want what is best for the other person, other than in how that person can enhance your life, then it is unconditional love.
No stipulations, no strings, and no expectations of performance are required. If it is from the heart, you expect nothing in return.
When you say, I love you, the words should carry a desire to show someone that you love them, rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, put yourself in their shoes.
Try to understand who they are, how they feel, and where they are coming from; realize how they could love you in return.
Also, realize that different people have different ways of showing love and some simply do not have the capacity to love, sometimes through no fault of their own.
They may desperately want to love but do not know how, or maybe they have been deeply hurt before, and keep their heart guarded, or even have psychological issues that keep them from understanding something so profound.
When you love someone it should be with the intent to improve that person’s life, allow them to be themselves and accept them as they are, not who you want them to be.
Sometimes it takes realizing that you can lose the one you love to appreciate the gift that you have been given.
Click this link for the “Love Lessons” video.
Until I understood how our Creator loves us, I did not really know what unconditional love is; now I do.
God does not want us to be away from Him so in His unfathomable mercy, He allows us to judge ourselves and make corrections and thereby avoid tribulations, or punishment, and draw closer to Him.
This is our Creator’s unconditional love for us. Just as a parent loves a child and gives the child the opportunity to apologize, change their behavior and resolve to improve, so does God with His children, us.
Understanding this from a parent’s perspective made love crystal clear to me.
No, I still don’t always get it right, there are times I wish I would have done things differently, but I ultimately want what’s best for the other people in my life, and even for strangers that I will never meet, people like you.
“You will never have the capacity to truly love someone else until
you understand how your Creator loves you.
When you are able to accept that, then you are able to love yourself,
and you will know how to love others, unconditionally.”
–Author of this website.